I had a comment come through recently (see below) that took my mind back with memories that whilst I think I have shared some of them before there were some other comments from this young girl that were concerning so I wanted to be able to answer her questions and also let others see the answers she was asking.

Hi Sue,
I’m 17 and not interested in becoming an escort. However, I am interested to know why you got into it? What prevoked you? A year ago, I was going through a phase of wanting to satisfy every guy, tease every guy and increase the number of guys I had gotten off with. I felt so revitalised and proud because of it.. until I was labelled as a slut and I hated myself intensly. I lost my self respect and felt like I should become a prositute because I’m not worth anything more. Do you in any way at all feel ashamed of what you do? Maybe by the fact that some of the clients you have could be married and/or in a relationship? I really do mean that in the politest of ways.

Why did I get into escorting?  Actually, escorting found me.  I certainly did not understand what escorting was all about until it arrived in my life.  I was invited into this industry by a guy setting up a swingers club in Leeds and who turned out to be the boyfriend of a Leeds escort agency owner.  He persuaded me to try escorting (remember I was a swinger at that time) and it seemed an oppotunity to not dismiss so I talked it over with my husband who did as he always used to do … you only live once Sue so try what you want to for you – so I did.  It was an eye opener but it lead to my opening Angels4You Manchester escort agency so it can’t have been a negative experience in every way now can it.

Reading through the email from the young lady above, at 17 I am not really suprised that she found herself called names because she wanted to have time out for fun but what is sad is that she has a lot more years of judgements and name calling ahead of her as when it comes to sex, there are so many narrow minds out there.

Losing self respect and feeling unworthy of anything only comes from believing what others tell you however, with maturity usually comes understanding that the only person you really have to make happy is yourself.  Its not, however, always easy to believe in yourself when others make you feel unhappy but age has a lot to answer for!  I remember so many times thinking I knew everything at that age – I still feel 17 in my head (my body says different) but I know realistically that at 17 I did not have the experience to really make decisions that would affect my life as much as this young lady feels she needs to do – ie become a prostitute and be unworthy of being a person.

I have beeen asked if I feel ashamed of what I have done and by this I know she means escorting.  My absolute categoric answer is “do I heck feel ashamed”.  I absolutely loved escorting and I know how successful I was in what I did.  This young lady has a lot to learn yet about people as escorting (if done right) is about people not about bodies and is an art form which I took great delight in learning and becoming an expert in.  This feeling comes from experience not having a great face and body and in no way detracts from the fact that some people I saw were clearly married.  So many of the great times I have had involved real confidence conversations – wives, girlfriends, work issues and children were all subjects that were never taboo behind closed doors and that is why I say that there is an art form about escorting which many girls never understand as they allow themselves to feel that they are prostitutes and simply use their bodies and not their minds.

This subject goes round and round in circles however what has almost always been clear to me is that escorting is an art that takes time to learn and, if done right, is one of the most empowering (not slutty!) experiences of your life.  I will never have regrets about the people I have met and the times I have had.  At 17 years old though, without me now sounding too old, its too young an age for this concept of experience to be fully understood.  To understand you  need experience – to experience what I know …..you need …….. age!

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